Continuing with my 30 Days of Gratitude, I am thankful for something that has taken me years to come to grips with – an ability to know and understand my emotions.
Day #6 – I KNOW How I Fell About That!
As I wrote about a few months ago, your ability to know and manage your emotions can have a huge impact on everything in your life. Conversely, an inability to perceive and manage emotions can also have a big impact … generally negative.
For many years, Lisa would ask ‘how do you feel about that’ and I wouldn’t know. We used to joke that I grew up in a loving but incredibly emotionally constipated environment, and looking at stuff my siblings and extended family have experienced … it is very true. Amongst the things Lisa and I have worked on through the years is my ability to appreciate how I am actually feeling and truly OWN those emotions.
Yes it is very true and possible to have ‘mixed feelings’, but generally I can identify and talk through my feelings on things going on. There are a few examples I can think of immediately, including one fairly recently where I felt annoyed (which really isn’t a pure emotion but a reaction to other emotions, in my experience) and realized it was a matter of stress, anger, inconvenience, feeling like a secondary priority, and some other stuff.
My ability to truly OWN my emotions has made me a much stronger person, and also a much happier person. I believe it has strengthened my marriage and allowed for deeper relationships with friends.
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And of course, the Bee Gees have something to say about Emotions (which really has nothing to do with the post, but hey … whatevs):